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My Generation

My Grandparent's Generation
My Parent's Generation
My Generation

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      To portray the wedding ceremonies of my generation, I will use as example my cousin’s wedding.  Her name is Sharlyn Meaux and she met her husband Jorge Fernandez at age 22.  After dating for 3 years they got married.  Her engagement ring was a big diamond with two smaller ones at each side.  Their wedding was splendid.

My cousin arrived in a white limousine wearing a gorgeous dress.  She had a huge bouquet of white roses and all her five bridesmaids wore a similar dress, specially designed for the wedding.  They had a live organ playing, which announced the arrival of the bride to the nearly 200 guests that waited for her at the entrance.  After the ceremony ended, everyone departed from the big, beautiful Church, towards one of the ballroom of one of the most recognized hotels in Puerto Rico.

All of these things show differences through the three generations, since nowadays marriage is more extravagant, and more openly seen by society.  Our generation I say is characterized mostly by deconstruction because marriage is not as traditional as before.

The first band arrived and played the traditional waltz.  After the waltz my cousin’s husband sang to her: “Everything I do I do it for you” by Brian Adams.  It was a really touching moment; he forgot about everyone else and truly showed her how much she meant to him.  The song explains how she is the meaning in his life and how everything he is and does, is because of her, and vice versa.  It is worth mentioning that the song is in English.  This is evidence of the impact that the American culture has had in our society.  There are plenty of good songs in Spanish, yet this couple chose this one in English as the one who illustrates their love.  This again show even more signs of deconstruction, as time passes by people get influenced more and more by other cultures,   also changing the way in which you relate to different things, such as the song.

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      My generation is used to having almost everything, we don’t have to work as hard as our parents did, and we have much more facilities within our reach.  Our wedding ceremonies are very glamorous, but our marriages sometimes are not as pure and holy.  Most brides are not virgins when they approach the altar, and some are even pregnant.  Divorces are not an unusual incident anymore, and infidelity is not such a big scandal. 

Although the essence of marriage is still to profess love to one another, there have been obvious differences that are clear in the three generations. These go from the mentality and attitude of the couple towards what awaits them, to the preparations of the ceremony, the celebration of the same, and what happens in the couple’s future.  For my grandparent’s generation it was all about tradition.  We were able to infer that by that time, society was characterized by binary opposition.  They were more conservative, and things were like “norms”; everything was expected to be a certain way.  Throughout time society has become more open minded taking marriage in a more liberal way.  My parent’s generation showed signs of both binary opposition and deconstruction.  Things were still expected from the couple but at the same time giving them space to feel free to choose how they wanted their wedding.  Nowadays, in my generation things are even more different.  Everything shows deconstruction, marriage is not seen as serious as before, and it can be performed “however”, “whenever”.  Weddings are now more extravagant and worry less about the actual feeling.  I think that people should consider more the importance that such a step has in our lives, in order to keep the real sanctity of marriage.        

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Lyrics for: "Everything I do, I do it for you"
By: Bryan Adams
 
Look into my eyes - you will see
What you mean to me
Search your heart - search your soul
And when you finally there you will search no more
Don’t tell me it’s not worth tryin’ for
You can’t tell me it’s not worth dyin’ for
You know it’s true
Everything I do - I do it for you

Look into my heart - you will find
There’s nothin’ there to hide
Take me as I am - take my life
I would give it all I would sacrifice
Don’t tell me it’s not worth fightin’ for
I can’t help it there’s nothin’ I want more
Ya know it’s true
Everything I do - I do it for you

There’s no love - like you love
And no other - could give more love
There’s nowhere - unless you’re there
All the time - all the way
Don’t tell me it’s not worth tryin’ for
I can’t help it there’s nothin’ I want more
I would fight for you - I’d lie for you
Walk the wire for you - Ya I’d die for you

Ya know it’s true
Everything I do - I do it for you

Word Count: 1,977

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